3 Great Truths About Relationships, Women And Money
Facts around women and money have been ignored, or intentionally omitted in conversations in recent times. It is high time we became frank and honest with ourselves. Because most women want to be perceived as marriage material- not greedy, voracious and definitely not BAD women, they hide behind the veil and pretend to believe certain things about love and money. This has taken a toll on women generally, and they have come to regret their decisions.
Common Myths About Love, Women and Money Held in Many Societies.
- Good women do not care how rich or poor a guy is, what matters is love.
- Women do not know how to manage their finances, they need someone to help them out.
- Women rarely take risks and they are not serious investors.
- Women are into shopping and it is natural and normal for them
- Women with young children should stay home and let their partners provide for the family
- If your partner is rich, it is okay to stay home and enjoy the riches.
- Financially stable women are big-headed and show no respect to their partners.
I could go and on. But the truth is, real women are not easily hoodwinked. They employ a radical approach. They know beyond reasonable doubt that there is an intimate relationship between women and money. They confront the truths and face them head-on before moving forward. They are very clear on the importance of money and they can never underplay its role in relationships and in society as a whole.
Truth #1 About Women And Money: Real Women Have Their Own Money
While I do not like passing judgment for choices women make, and while I am aware that there are certain circumstances that force women not to have their own money, I strongly believe that every REAL woman should work towards financial independence. And, by this, I do not mean handouts from her partner.
For instance, if the arrival of a baby necessitates that you become a stay home mom for this noble cause, this should never be a permanent decision. Don’t get me wrong. I have three boys whom I adore like nothing else in the world. While staying home to raise them for a good number of years was a great decision, putting my career completely off the table would have been a stinking idea.
The great news is, there are many ideas which women can tap into. You can work from home, venture at some home based business suitable for women or work part-time. Even if you pay all the money to your child’s caregiver, and even if you feel stretched beyond your limits, eventually it will be well worth it.
Truth #2 On Women And Money: Real Women Choose An Ambitious Generous Partner .
I know I will be ostracized here but ladies, a guy’s wallet matters, VERY much! Choosing a less ambitious grumpy lazy broke guy is a huge mistake. With a few exceptions, most men without a vision tend to be timid, insecure and have no self esteem. As a real woman, spending the rest of your entire life trying to boost someone's self esteem can be an uphill battle. You must run away from such a person if your goal is to enjoy a fun and fulfilling relationship.
I have observed this trend for a very long time. Most women start off supporting a guy but if this guy has no ambition and drive to change his circumstances, women quickly get tired. You will agree with me that a tired resentful woman and a grumpy broke guy with no self esteem is NOT a very good combination, right? Real women know that very well.
"Aren't real women supposed to stand with their partners no matter what?!" That is a good question indeed. However, we must know that some cultural norms are deeply entrenched, making it difficult to break them over night. For instance, even if a woman is earning, she somehow expects a guy to provide for her and vise versa. That is a fact about women and money that will take some time to change despite efforts from our dear feminists.
In fact, most people have argued that marriage is difficult either way. Therefore, instead of crying in absolute poverty, wiping one's tears with ashes, they would rather cry in an exotic reclining leather sofa and wipe their tears with silk. And I could not agree more. I have seen marriages on both ends of the spectrum. Real women look out for men who are strong. Men with a vision.
#3 Truth On Women and Money: Real Women Use Money to Do Good.
While women want to buy luxurious things and do things for themselves (and this is excellent by the way), real women know that they are stewards. They are there to bless, like sponsoring a girl child. Although women and money should be friends, that friendship should not take precedence over blessing others. Real women know how to strike a balance.
Dear women, do not be gullible. Women and money have a special relationship. Money is great. Join other real women and enjoy this wonderful blessing God has given us. Make thoughtful decisions about your money. But most importantly, be very thoughtful about your partner.