Discovering Your Destiny Before It Is Too Late: You Owe it To Yourself

Discovering Your Destiny Before It Is Too Late: You Owe it To Yourself

Your Destiney

Destiny. That’s right. What is your destiny? What is my destiny? Where should we be today? How about in 5 or 10 years from now? 

I am pausing these questions to you, as well as to myself. 

You see, while I have realized some reasonable accomplishments over the years, there is this feeling inside my bones that keeps telling me that there is so much more I could be doing. Lately, this nudge has become so overwhelming that I can no longer contain it. I am not sure if it has anything to do with my advancing in age. All I know is that more than ever before, I feel the need to do something different. It seems like it is time to rediscover myself, my destiny, my calling.

“Why am I on this planet? What should I be doing? How do I do it? How do I know that I am doing what I ought to be doing?” 

How About You?

Do you feel within your gut that something in your life needs to change? Do you feel uncomfortable with your present circumstances? If you answered yes to any of these questions, please join me on this journey, of self discovery. I must warn you though: I do not have a PhD in this genre. However, my experiences of almost four decades cannot be underplayed.

For as long as I remember, I have always been proactive in achieving to my greatest potential. At times though, I have been a coward, and my judgment has often times been crowded. Oh yes, I have failed a couple of times and tended to give up. And settled for less. Very sad indeed, right?  I want to change that. 


Over this summer, I am making drastic and dramatic changes in my career path, and personal life. And the truth is, this can be VERY scary. I want you to walk with me, on this journey. I know most people feel the need to make some major (minor) changes in their lives: career, relationships, location, education, name it. However, they do not take any action. They are crippled because of many reasons. Are you one of them? I am challenging you to take that leap of faith.


Why? Because you will never forgive yourself for not trying. And guess what, there is one secret I have discovered. Well, it's actually not a secret. But it is pertinent to everyone’s well-being.

In life, there is one thing I know without a shadow of doubt: “God (or the universe) is always there to grant us with abundance, with what we need, as long as we are open to receiving it”. 

The Turn of Events In My Life

For most people who know me, especially those I grew up with, they imagined that by now, I would be an accomplished doctor (probably with a doctorate from Harvard), with my own practice, some place, somewhere in the universe. Why? Well, apart from growing up in poverty, struggling with school fees and other basic needs, I had the brains. Brains, which earned me scholarships, at almost every level. I tell you, I was every student’s envy. At the end of every semester, the best (and worst) performers would be announced before the whole school for recognition. Every one knew, that Tushabomwe would take the first position. If something happened and I became second, I would wail inconsolably, like a baby infested with serpents. 

How did all this take a different turn? How come that at almost forty years of age, I am here jobless, trying to re-discover my destiny, my calling? 


Or maybe, some expected me to be a sports celebrity, a.k.a Serena Williams of all time. I took home endless “trophies” in my youthful years. My first trip to Kampala (the capital city of Uganda) for a tour was sponsored by honorable Kanyeihamba (the minister of justice at the time), to reward me and a few other sports enthusiasts for our sports acumen. In fact, on our wedding day, our “go-between” warned my husband, that if he ever crossed the line, I would run away and that he would never catch up! Apparently, I used to run like a “Maya” ─the fastest bird in my language! (Thankfully, my husband is a smart dude. I have not had to run away). 

Do I have any regrets for not pursuing a career in sports? Nope! Except for the fact that I would be super fit, with no extra layers of subcutaneous fat around my belly, and obviously no cellulite. 

Why do I have no regrets then? Why am I not disturbed that today, I am still struggling with this basic “destiny” question when almost twenty years ago, my future seemed so certain? So bright? The answer is right here, in my favorite saying of all time:

"Today, You Are Exactly Where You Are Supposed To Be.  
What Happens Tomorrow Is Up To You.”

That my friend  is what I believe. I may not have had the perfect background. I may have made mistakes along the way. I may have floundered. I may not be exactly where I want to be, or even where I am expected to be. But that is okay. Today, I am where I need to be. What is relevant right now is: Where am I supposed to be tomorrow? What do I need to do to get there? Who do I need along this journey? 


There is one main problem that hinders most people: The BLAME game. You must avoid the blame game like a scourge! It is not about your background. It is not about your spouse, your looks, the weather, your kids, name it! Stop crying over spilled milk. You are where you are for a reason. But what happens tomorrow is up to you. The power is in your hands. 

1. What is your purpose in life?
2. What changes do you need to make? 
3. What are you going to do about it?
4. Who do you need on this journey?
5. What/who do you need to give up?
6. What are your biggest fears?
7. How will you feel if you never ever achieve your purpose in life?

One of my main goals in life is “to touch as many people’s lives (in a positive way), as I possibly can”. For now, I am trying to figure out what that looks like. I will share with you all the steps I will be taking:  obstacles, successes, joys, supports, name it! So you want to bookmark this page and keep coming back. 

Share Your Thoughts!

I want you, my dear readers, to walk with me, on this journey as I unravel this mystery. If you have  figured out how to do it, to some extent, please weigh in and share your experiences. I could use your expertise. I believe there is no greater joy than knowing that you are living the life you were meant to live. What must someone do to discover their destiny? But most importantly,  how can one live to their fullest potential? How does this scenario look like for most "ordinary" folks?
Have your say. 

14 Comments on “Discovering Your Destiny Before It Is Too Late: You Owe it To Yourself

  1. Hmmmm i recently made a drastic change and I’m in the process of rediscovering me! And like you I feel like I should be impacting more positively (at my age 😂😂😂). So I will be checking in regularly to see how we are doing. I sure hope it will be fun discovering our destiny…..

    1. These are my women… Yes, you mastered the saying that insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. Way to go! I am also looking forward to picking up a leaf from you.

    1. Thank you Jane Goldfarb Himmel. You know you are one of my favorite women. What you have accomplished, at such a “tender”age is so admirable. So glad that our paths met.

  2. Annette, I do really hope it works out for us to get together on Thursday. I need to hear more about your current journey, share mine, and see if they intersect!

    1. Mary Ann,
      It was an absolute pleasure meeting you. I truly treasure our friendship! May we walk together, on this journey, as we discover our destiny.

  3. Thanks for sharing from the heart. I have the same questions. Of course it has a lot to do with the middle age crisis ….but poor training in the schools we went to are also a big problem. Any way, the Holy Spirit has all the answers . Problem is that we don’t give Him time to give us direction and we are always looking for answers outside of us. Napoleon Hill wrote a book ” Think and grow rich”…the answer is between our ears , I believe.

    1. You are right my sis Dr. Priscilla Asiimire. All I know is that our past experiences have been preparing us for greater things. We just have to claim them

  4. I have been asking my self similar questions. Therefore, here to learn from you and the rest may be it will help unlock mine as well.

    1. Thanks for stopping by. Where there is a will, there is a way. Thankfully you are still in your prime years! Everything will therefore fall into place!

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